Connor Menning and Leah Short

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In mid January, 2011 Connor Menning, 15, of Huntington and a student at Mount Mansfield and Leah Short, 16, of Dummerston and a student at Brattleboro High, took their own lives. Our hearts go out to their family and close friends, to neighbors and acquaintances, to their communities.
Keep them in our minds, our hearts. Feel free to continue to use this space to express your memories or thoughts, grief and confusion. Put Connor or Leah in the keywords or click on these keywords above to read what others have written. -- gg
UPDATE 2.1.11: WCAX discusses how Internet played role in discussions after suicides. YWP included.
Our heartfelt condolences to all. These two deaths, separate but connected by the way they died, are a jolting reminder of life's hidden anguish and fragility.
Their passing raises the memories of others who have taken their own lives, including Aaron Xue, a 15-year-old boy who died in the spring 2009 at Essex High School and of Ryan Halligan in 2003. Experts say that it's best to let your grief out, to seek someone to talk with, to write, to try to make sense of your emotions.
- Below are both Leah's and Connor's obituaries.
- Leah Short's YWP piece from 2009
- Click this link to post condolences to Leah's family on Brattleboro Reformer obituary.
- Connor's memorial Facebook page.
- An ambitious writing project in response to the deaths.
Connor Menning's obituary from the Burlington Free Press
CONNOR M. MENNING
Connor Michael Menning, of Huntington, born May 31, 1995 in Burlington, left us unexpectedly on Jan. 18, 2011. Connor was devoted to his friendships and greatly enjoyed the time he spent with his friends or communicating with them. Lacrosse and football were a focal point of his life, and he had many friends throughout the area's lacrosse and football communities. His defensive play in lacrosse was a matter of great pride, and during informal summer lacrosse games, he and his two brothers formed a fearsome defense line. He was anticipating this year's lacrosse season, and was doing conditioning runs on the snow-covered trails of Camels Hump, as well as enjoying time on the slopes riding his snowboard. Connor expressed interest in becoming a Vermont State Trooper after college. He also had a great interest in science and had many questions about subjects such as the nervous system and physiology. Connor showed a natural talent for language in his German studies and wanted to begin study of Russian next year; he hoped to study abroad at some point during college. He was looking forward to locating an early Ford Mustang, restoring it, and driving it extensively. We all relished his sense of humor, which was both dry and kind. On the playing fields, his coaches knew him as a serious athlete who remained focused during training and games. He did all he could individually and as a leader to do his best and to bring out the best in his team-mates. Connor's immediate family includes his sister, Amber; his brothers, Will and Austin; and his parents, Joyce and Bill Menning; as well as his close friend of the family, Ashley Potvin. His closest friends of many years were David Hodge and Sundance Stadtler, but his larger circle of friends was extensive. A celebration of Connor's life will be held on Saturday, Jan. 22, 2011 at 11 a.m. in the Richmond Congregational Church. There will be no visiting hours. Flowers may be sent to the Richmond Congregational Church, 20 Church Road, Richmond, VT 05477.
Leah Short's obituary from the Brattleboro Reformer:
Leah C. Short 1994-2011
EAST DUMMERSTON Leah Claire Short, age 16, of U.S. Route 5 in East Dummerston, died unexpectedly Monday afternoon at Brattleboro Memorial Hospital. Leah was born in Brattleboro on September 7, 1994, the daughter of Terry and Kelly Merrigan Short. She was raised and educated in Dummerston and was currently a sophomore at Brattleboro Union High School.
She was an exceptional, grade A student at the high school, and active in varsity sports. Because of her outstanding athletic ability, as a freshman she was selected to play on the varsity soccer team and was currently on the varsity basketball team. Leah traveled to the Netherlands to play soccer with her Storm team in 2008. Leah excelled in everything she set her mind to, both academic and athletic. She was a sweet, kind, loving and compassionate girl with a very outgoing personality. In conjunction with her love for sports, she cherished time with her many friends as well as with her family. She was a member of the Windham Community Bible Chapel in Dummerston and had plans to travel to Haiti this year to assist the many children and orphans in need.
Besides her parents, she is survived by, three sisters, Katelyn Short of Brattleboro, and Tessa Short and Anna Short both at home, her maternal grandmother, Julie Merrigan of Brattleboro, paternal grandparents, Howard and Clarice Short of Dummerston, and a niece Alexis Short of Brattleboro. Additionally she leaves many aunts, uncles and cousins. FUNERAL NOTICE: Funeral services will be conducted on Saturday at 11 a.m. at Saint Michael's Catholic Church on Walnut Street with pastor Duffy Johnson of the Windham Community Chapel, officiating. Burial will follow in Meetinghouse Hill Cemetery. Friends are invited to call at the Atamaniuk Funeral Home on Friday from 4 to 7 p.m. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions in Leah's name may be made to, The Children of Haiti, Hartline Ministries, P.O. Box 898, Sunnyside, WA 98944.
HowardCenter's suggestions for help and information on dealing with grief and suicide:
- A state Web site for youth: http://www.umatterucangethelp.com/
- HowardCenter -- www.howardcenter.org
- HowardCenter First Call for Children & Families -- 802-488-7777
- HowardCenter Adult Crisis -- 802-488-6400
- American Foundation for Suicide Prevention -- www.afsp.org
- www.maine.gov/suicide -- has great resources and a postvention guide for schools
- Parents can also reach out to the school staff-guidance counselor, school psychologist, mental health counselors or social workers. HowardCenter has mental health providers in many schools.
- Pediatricians or primary care doctors can be a resource.
- If someone has a counselor or psychiatrist they see already, talking to that person.
- Support from clergy-pastoral counseling.
- http://mentalhealth.vermont.gov/
- http://www.save.org/
- ggevalt's blog
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I didn't know him, but I just
I didn't know him, but I just wanted to say my heart and sympathy goes out to his family and friends.
I wish I were pretty/I wish I were brave/If I owned this city/I would make it behave -Let the Rain, Sara Bareilles
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This made me cry, it's just so horrible that something would drive someone to kill themselves. I am so sorry, and thought I didn't know him, I feel for his family and friends.
I second December.
~Nyx
RIP Connor Menning
I never knew him, but I feel really bad about this. I wish someone could've known to stop him, but I guess that chance has passed. When I found out I was really upset. Just knowing another person has done this is a really sad and serious thing. I hope all those who cared about him will remember him because people deserve that much.
"They don't teach soldiers to dance like they used to..."-Quiet, by Dave Eggers
I will walk into my exams
I will walk into my exams this week and see his empty chair, see the faces of the friends that he left behind. Every time I walk down the 100 wing hallway, I will think about Connor and wonder why a bright, athletic, popular young man chose to take his own life.
Ͼirce
a very sad day...
i didn't know Connor but my sympathy goes out to his family and friends. rest in peace :(
~+"I can only please one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow doesn't look good either."+~
Thoughts
He had the brightest smile. I second what Circe said. If you have been touched by this tragedy, and want to spread the love and support the MMU community is trying to share to let other students at risk know that we care and help remember Connor, please, wear purple tomorrow. Purple was Connor's favorite color, and MMU will be full to the brim with it tomorrow. Thank you for your thoughts! MMU appreciates all the concern and support you guys are giving to us.
~Moya
This is,
This is so sad. I didn't know Conner at all, but I can feel great empathy for those invalved. Last year, a good friend of my mom's took her life and the the lives of her two young children. I remember the devestation, the tears, the confusion, as if it were only this year. I am aware of the affect something like this can have on others. It's horrifying, terrifying. And I wish I could give a hug to all those involved, strech out a hand to those who knew this young man. I'll pray for you.
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:(
I didn't go to school there but just this weekend a sophmore from my school Brattleboro Union High school did the same to herself... self inflicted gun shot... very saddening. :\ So I know just the feelings many people feel... it's horrible... nothing is worth taking your life for... even when things feel like they can never get better.
"please mind the gap" -Mr. Tuna
I didn't know either of
I didn't know either of them. I didn't know either of them & I never will, but I mourn them & grieve for their families anyway. I wish they had realized they had something (everything) to live for.
What a wonderful outpouring
What a wonderful outpouring of emotions...connects us all even though we don't know one another. One family, supporting each other. These posts leave tears on my cheeks -- tears for Connor, his family and friends ... and tears for the power of words.
Even though i never knew
Even though i never knew them i am very sorry their lives were takin may they rest in peace an in love to the ones whom were truly loved by friends and family.also guys it wasnt just connor it was also leah. when i read about both of them i wanted to just cry. It kills me to hear these young people had there lives takin away its auful an im srry for all whom know him may THEY REST IN PEACE!
Laugh more an more, smile, be happy, be nice, and you'll live longer! :)
This Made me tear up.
Reading everything about Connor mad me tear up. My friend was really close with him, and i felt so bad for when i got told about his death. I send best wishes to his famly, and any one who knew him. No one should ever take their life, everyone has something to live for. Connor Menning especially did.