I am a human who doesn't understand other humans and I want to know why friendship has such a vague definition. There seem to be no criteria you have to fulfill to be someone's friend. My personal definition is: someone who you choose to spend time with, outside of the circumstances in which you must be with them. So if you hang out with a classmate outside of school, you are then friends. I have recently learned that other people do not see friendship this way and I want to hear more opinions.
06/29/2021 - 9:43pm
I don't like the idea that there are different levels and circles of friendship. For some reason it makes me very uncomfortable. I want all friendships to be equal. It doesn't make sense that one could be "friends" with someone you that you never talk to or spend time with. There are other things that I don't understand about humans, but this is the one that has been most confusing to me.
06/29/2021 - 9:47pm
I think of friends as anyone who is nice to you and who you hangout with when you don't have too and best friends as people who you hangout with a lot and who make you slime and laugh and who you trust. That is just my opinion though!
06/30/2021 - 6:55pm
I think I use the word friend rather liberally, so for me there is definitely different levels of friendship. As long as I feel comfortable texting you without editing and overthinking it, I'm willing to call that person a friend. That being said I do call some people friends who I don't necessarily consider friends anymore just because it's weird to "demote" someone that way, and because I could definitely see us being friends again. IDK, that's just my take on it. Interesting question though.
06/30/2021 - 9:36pm
A friend is someone you would trust a secret to, A best friend is someone you would trust your life to. Or just trust them with your crush. It changes though. :| Humans are weird
07/01/2021 - 1:23pm
hm agreed with amaryllis I use friends rather liberally as well and I definitely have circles and different sorts of friends. I guess my general definition of friendship is someone who your able to experience all parts of life, be yourself around, always feel uplifted by and who you feel comfortable going to to share secretes good and bad. I like the choose to spend time with outside of circumstance with bit too :)
07/01/2021 - 9:53pm
as a follow up thought... I guess I have the really good friends who's friendships goes above and beyond just having fun together and being comfortable/closest with. And most other people are in the general friend category of we meet, have a great convo and meet a few weeks later and can have another great convo almost instantly. Then I have the friend by association, so like someone I know who I just respect and think is a cool person. And then Family friend, which is like friend but also closer like family and farther away because you don't see them often necessarily lol
Sorry that was a really long answer and I never new I had so much to say abt friends XD Overall yes humans are extremely weird, definitely cool to hear everyone's thought on this hehe
07/01/2021 - 10:09pm
I think a friend is a person that in a room full of other people, you want to stand next to them. Not to say that you are picking them over the other people... but a little bit. I don't think you have to hang out to be friends, there are kids I only see at school but we eat lunch together or like we'll pick each other for a project and I'd consider most of them friends. I think that there are definitely different levels of friendship b/c I'd say I'm better friends with the people I see outside of school than I am with the people I eat lunch with and I'm better friends with the people I eat lunch with than the people I do projects with. It's kind of confusing but I also worry frequently that some of my friendships are one-sided and I think we're friends but the other person doesn't... which is concerning... I feel like I should be able to tell xD