It can be agonizing to constantly ask "what ifs" and replay the different threads and pathways of what could have. A very pensive and beautifully written piece to this prompt
I'm sorry you're going through this, it sounds really tough :(
I don't have much advice since I've never been through a breakup, but I would suggest to try to cultivate/focus on friendships, since doing that has helped keep my mind off wanting a relationship. In the end, friendships are often healthier and longer-lasting than romantic relationships, and they can still be very special and beautiful, just without the stress that often comes with dating. It can be hard to find your "people" sometimes and I'm still doing that lol, but I feel like I'm slowly but steadily building a group of friends (mostly female) that I feel comfortable with and really connected to. If/when I do date someone and go through a breakup, it's nice to think that I will still have them to fall back on, and while I'm not in a relationship it's good to have other forms of connection.
Also--the person you were with seems to have treated you very unfairly, and you shouldn't internalize that/think you are "trouble". Sadly, she might just not have been emotionally able to give you what you wanted out of the relationship and were giving to her. It's hard to hear, but try your best to start moving on, or like you said no longer ruminate as much (it's actually one of my dad's personal policies not to ruminate lol! i think it's a good one!). And feel happy about the little things in life: a day when it's finally not as cold, a good meal, a good book, whatever gets you through each day, then week, then month, etc. Also, you're already doing this but continue expressing your emotions through writing! I often find it very cathartic and mind-clearing to sort my thoughts out on paper. Writing fiction can be a great way to escape, too.
I totally understand the missing the hand to hold part--every time I see a couple holding hands, I just feel so sad that I don't have that, and mad at myself for getting my hopes up over a guy who I now know has a girlfriend. I'm trying to stay positive and think that eventually I will have a relationship that's caring and supportive, but I'm also sort of pessimistic, because if I do start dating someone, how do I know it'll work out? It's complicated by the fact that I still haven't really moved on...the guy I liked has no idea and still wants to be my friend, and every time I see him it's like my brain forgets I can't like him anymore and starts searching for any hint I might still have a chance :(
Anyway, sorry for the rant at the end lol. I agree that being single doesn't have to be so bad!! We've both got this. And feel free to message me on ywp anytime!! <3
This is absolutely amazing! I would love to read your anthology, especially if you keep posting bits of it.
Love it! You make nature sound as amazing as it should be. I go on walks sometimes when my house gets too noisy, so I can totally relate
I'm always like, "What if I said this instead? Or this?" and then"Ugh, why couldn't I think of what to say earlier!?"
That's really nice and heart-warming :)
I wish I could get my sister to walk with me
Hope is left
or death
Oh this is good I read it three times through, "Rusty pipes hold no water but the water rusted the pipes first" I love that line. Keep writing!
It can be agonizing to constantly ask "what ifs" and replay the different threads and pathways of what could have. A very pensive and beautifully written piece to this prompt
Thanks <3
thank you for the advice :)
I'm sorry you're going through this, it sounds really tough :(
I don't have much advice since I've never been through a breakup, but I would suggest to try to cultivate/focus on friendships, since doing that has helped keep my mind off wanting a relationship. In the end, friendships are often healthier and longer-lasting than romantic relationships, and they can still be very special and beautiful, just without the stress that often comes with dating. It can be hard to find your "people" sometimes and I'm still doing that lol, but I feel like I'm slowly but steadily building a group of friends (mostly female) that I feel comfortable with and really connected to. If/when I do date someone and go through a breakup, it's nice to think that I will still have them to fall back on, and while I'm not in a relationship it's good to have other forms of connection.
Also--the person you were with seems to have treated you very unfairly, and you shouldn't internalize that/think you are "trouble". Sadly, she might just not have been emotionally able to give you what you wanted out of the relationship and were giving to her. It's hard to hear, but try your best to start moving on, or like you said no longer ruminate as much (it's actually one of my dad's personal policies not to ruminate lol! i think it's a good one!). And feel happy about the little things in life: a day when it's finally not as cold, a good meal, a good book, whatever gets you through each day, then week, then month, etc. Also, you're already doing this but continue expressing your emotions through writing! I often find it very cathartic and mind-clearing to sort my thoughts out on paper. Writing fiction can be a great way to escape, too.
I totally understand the missing the hand to hold part--every time I see a couple holding hands, I just feel so sad that I don't have that, and mad at myself for getting my hopes up over a guy who I now know has a girlfriend. I'm trying to stay positive and think that eventually I will have a relationship that's caring and supportive, but I'm also sort of pessimistic, because if I do start dating someone, how do I know it'll work out? It's complicated by the fact that I still haven't really moved on...the guy I liked has no idea and still wants to be my friend, and every time I see him it's like my brain forgets I can't like him anymore and starts searching for any hint I might still have a chance :(
Anyway, sorry for the rant at the end lol. I agree that being single doesn't have to be so bad!! We've both got this. And feel free to message me on ywp anytime!! <3